7 Steps to Resolving a Marriage Dispute in Nigeria

Some marital problems appear permanent simply because you have not applied the right conflict resolution strategy to that dispute. You find couples are repeatedly arguing about the same issue as a result of this circumstance but they never stop to ask themselves why do we keep arguing about this? However, this does not have to be the case, the majority of conflict may be handled if a consistent process is used. Conflict resolution is a process not a destination.

While these process may appear to be time consuming at first, they will ultimately save many hours of tedious fighting and avoidance. Furthermore, if an issue is left ignored, it will ultimately develop into something uncontrollable. These seven steps to conflict resolution would save your marriage

1. The environment, norms, and limits: always begin the conversation at a neutral location. Set a time limit, concentrate on one subject at a time, keep cool, and agree to disagree if necessary. Decide not to use insults, belittle ideas, or engage in manipulative conduct.
2. Arrive at an agreement on the issue: each person should state the issue as they see it. Then search for a broader problem, as well as any underlying concerns or needs. Choose one combat at a time
3. Obtain information Use the SWOT analysis (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats): What is your SWOT and what are the other person’s strengths and shortcomings that will be useful in this situation? Is there room for advancement? Who or what may jeopardize success?
4. Brainstorm solutions: At first, focus on remaining optimistic, creative, and in the current moment. Keep criticism to a minimum and instead embrace out-of-the-ordinary answers. Next, concentrate on converting difficulties into opportunities, refining ideas, and integrating thoughts.
5. Negotiate: work towards a collaborative solution by being hard on the problem and soft on the person. Then emphasize common ground and make clear agreements on small things. If necessary, be willing to forgive or ask for forgiveness. This is the time to let go of inconsequential things. Most importantly, allow time for each party to speak and listen.
6. Take action now: choose one concept and select a start date. Then, decide on evaluation times and a deadline.
7. Evaluate: Ask these questions on the last day. What was effective? What can be done to make it better? Where is assistance required?

Resolving conflicts enhances a marriage and brings two individuals closer together. This process takes a long time at first, but it is well worth the effort.