How assumption can destroy your marriage
High blood pressure is considered the “silent killer,” because it typically gives no obvious signs. Many people who have high blood pressure felt just fine before the undetected increase in blood pressure puts them at increased risk of heart disease, disability, and death.
What does this have to do with marriage?
Just like high blood pressure can be a silent killer physically, there are some things that can be silent killers to your marriage and assumption is one of the top-ranked amongst them
A lot of people come into the marriage with assumptions.
- Assumptions about how marriage should be.
- Assumptions about how our spouse should be and behave.
- Assumptions about how our kids should be.
Over time reality begins to set in and reality rarely matches our assumptions. This allows unrealistic expectations to envelop us with anger and unnecessary suspicions.
Yes! our assumptions might not be wrong, but what happens when our assumptions don’t fit our reality, we tend to hold on to our assumptions as if they were commandments that came down from the mountain with Moses, rather than adjust our assumptions to meet our current reality.
This definitely will silently kill you and your marriage.
When there is a lack of trust, then assumptions must be present and this is definitely a silent killer.
You begin to think you can read your partner’s mind and know what’s going on when you might just be very wrong.
Learn to listen instead of being a mind reader. Quit assuming and start asking and listening more before your assumptions destroy your marriage.
They cause you to gradually drift until you suddenly realize you are isolated from one another. This looks like doing your own thing when you could be doing something together.