CODES OF LOVE: PART 2

Nnaemeka enjoys helping his wife “Ijeoma” out in the kitchen when she prepares meals for the family. 

 

At other times he would have gotten the meal ready before she came home from the office.

 

Nnaemeka is a self-employed mechanical engineer, hence he has a bit more flexibility of time than his wife, an auditor with an accounting firm.

 

He works so hard and earns a decent income that sustains his home, however, does not have a proper accounting structure to his business.

 

This he is sure his wife can help out with but she constantly gives excuses on why it should wait for later.As time went by, he began to feel neglected and unwanted which took a huge toll on the peace of their marriage.

 

Ijeoma could not fathom this, “Why is he angry? She yelled at one occasion, can’t he see how busy I am?”

 

What exactly do you think is the antidote to this dispute?

 

 

Act of Service: A wonderful way of creating intimacy is to do service projects together. Giving to others fills the heart and creates deep satisfaction in the soul. Doing service moves you out of yourself and your own problems and supports a broader, more spiritual view of life. Do an act of service for your spouse like massage their feet, cook them dinner, do the laundry, etc. Use action words like “I will help…”. They want to know you are with them.

This love language, unlike couples who prefer to hear how much they are cared for, believe that actions speak louder than words. Couples on this list like to be served by their spouse and they also do not mind serving their spouse. Doing the smaller and bigger chores to make their lives easier or more comfortable is highly cherished by these groups of people.

 

If your spouse’s love language is an act of service, then chances are that they would value it when you go out of your way to make life easier for them. These services include things like bringing them soup when they’re sick, making coffee for them in bed in the morning, or picking up dry cleaning for them when they’ve had a busy day at work, paying interest in their work and helping out, etc.

 

You can connect with your spouse.Join us in the next episode of MEALS with Chinny coming up on the 29th March, 2022 as we explore forgiveness and letting go in marriage: https://bit.ly/Marriage-webinar-wishlist,