How Clarity Is One Of The Best Solution Of Conflict In Marriage
How Clarity Is One Of The Best Solution Of Conflict In Marriage
Clarity in conflict
So, what actually causes a disagreement to become a conflict or turn into a conflict in a marriage? The basic and simplest explanation is that there is a lack of clarity.
A lack of clarity is the root cause of 95% of all conflicts in marriage and other aspects of life. This is because clarity breeds awareness and where this is lacking people grow anxious about the relationship’s safety when there is no clarity. How clear are you about the state of things a married person in your marriage?
• Do you know who you are and who your spouse is?
• Do you have a sense of where you are?
• Do you have a plan for where you are going?
• Do you have a plan for getting there?
• Are the priorities reasonable and obvious?
• Are the correct people making the correct decisions in your marriage and life?
• What is the next step during a conflict situation?
• Who is responsible for what?
• Do I feel you can affect the process and the results if you don’t like what I see?
• Are the decision-makers in your conflict situation well-informed and objective?
• Are you being portrayed in the greatest possible way?
• Can you put your confidence in the people and the process that is going to transform my life or my job?
People hate been in a state of confusion and I guess, you are not left out. When you are unable to answer some or most of these fundamental questions, it leaves you in a state of confusion. Some others do not appreciate surprises, even when the surprise is for a good reason. They experience a sense of fear in that period of wait, this is the fear of uncertainty and the behaviors that ensue are never productive.
This is exactly the same with conflict, when a couple is in conflict a lot of clarity gain prior to the conflict, during the conflict and after the conflict would go a long way in resolving whatever conflict exists.
People thrive on clarity; clarity on self, clarity on identity, clarity on goal, clarity on the procedure, clarity on purpose, clarity on conflict situations, clarity on roles and duties, clarity on beliefs, etc.
Hence clarity is a step to the solution of the conflict in marriage.