You do not need fixing because you are not damaged

Back in my early years of marriage, I was so confused whenever a conflict broke out between both my spouse and I.

Once in one of those situations… I said to my spouse “You see this marriage thing, I don’t think it is working out”

We had just had a heated argument that left me drained, being the type that keeps a record of wrongs and always pays attention to every detail.

This was destroying me more than it was building me, simply because I felt my spouse and I needed fixing.

Who am I?

Easy to answer, right? Hahaha! Not that easy but very crucial to your growth and the growth of your marriage.

If you do not know who you are then it is very impossible to understand any other person. Sadly a lot of married people do not take this into consideration before, during, and in marriage.

They live on wishful thinking, trying to get their spouse to do their bidding and to become the change they seek.

Come closer and listen to this…the forgetfulness of self or the lack of knowledge of self have led to so many deadlocks in marriage and lots of behavioral problems.

Are you the life of a party or you are the sole human?

Are you that human that takes their time to do things only to be called lazy by your spouse?

Are you that person that pleasing you can be compared to passing a needle through the eyes of a camel?

Are you that person that enjoys taking on the problem of the whole world?

Are you the type that likes to be in control always such that people disdain you for this?

You can be a whole lot and the good news is that no matter the person you are, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

You do not need fixing because you are not damaged!

Moreso, now that you know this all you need to do is to understand yourself so you can always activate your strengths in the right place to maximize your opportunities and accept your areas of improvement so you use them to silence your threats then align them with that of your spouse.

Knowing fully well that your spouse also has areas they struggle with. So you pull your strengths together for the benefit of your marriage and home by becoming the strength in the areas of each other’s weakness and accepting these weaknesses as areas of improvement.

Yes, it is possible to save your marriage and enjoy the marriage of your dreams through activating serenity for lasting happiness.

If you need clarity on personal discovery and knowledge of who you are, simply call Chinenye on 08171964889 to book a free 30 minutes consultation.

P.S: This post is primarily for couples within 0-7 years of marriage